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Sunshine and Smiles | Blog

I was always a bit of a winter person. I loved fuzzy jumpers, rainy movie days and warm blankets but since having bubba I seem to have changed. He is such a summer baby and would practically love outside if I let him. He loves nothing better than being out in the sunshine, playing with bubbles and playing with sand and as he is always outside, I seem to be too.

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I think the reason I wasn't a huge summer fan before was because I got bored so easily. It always seemed like a lovely idea to grab a book and a cold drink and go lay in the garden for an hour but in reality I would get out there, get annoyed with the flys or get super sweaty, have a drink that would have a dead bug in it and end up being blinded by the sun so not able to read my book. Laying and sunbathing is boring to me so I just never really do it.
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But...having Bubba at the age he is now, summer is so different. It is like being a child myself again. I get to play in paddling pools, blow bubbles, play swing ball, build sandcastles...I get to do all the things that I used to do 18 years or so ago and the best part is that no one judges me because I am doing it all with my toddler :)

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They say that children give you a totally different outlook on the world and they are right. Summer, so far, has been wonderful. Filled with suncream, smiles and sandy feet and I have loved every single second!
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Marriage... | blog

I recently read this post by amazingly talented Absolutely Prabulous which is called 'The Anniversary Card I Never Thought I'd Write''. In this letter to her husband she very honestly and openly talks about what she loves about him but then adds the raw truth about some elements of their relationship in each point. I read this post at 5.30 am this morning whilst trying to get bubba to go back to sleep and it made me feel really sad. Don't get me wrong, I felt happy that she was able to write the post and glad that her husband and her were able to work on the flaws in their marriage from it but my overwhelming feeling was one of sadness. Sad that husbands and wife's grow apart over the years and become unrecognisable to each other...Sad that even though on the surface their marriage may look strong and happy, underneath is a different story... Sad that my marriage could become that one day.

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I married my best friend in September 2012. It was the happiest day of my life but the years that have followed it have been the happiest years of my life. I didn't get married for the fancy venue, or the dress, or the honeymoon. I got married as I wanted to spend the rest of my life with hubby and wanted to stand in front of my family and friends and promise to love and care for him for the rest of my life. Then have a big old party to celebrate afterwards. Our wedding was perfect for us. It wasn't majorly expensive, there was no stress involved and we honestly had the most perfect day. The funniest about it is that a wedding really didn't do anything to us. Yes we had a great day and had an amazing time celebrating with our loved ones and went on a wonderful holiday afterwards but it didn't change who we were and how we were with each other. To me, all it really meant was that I had a different last name. Marriage, to me, was no different than being in a relationship. It is about commitment, communication, honesty and compromise. All the things we based our relationship around before our wedding and all the things we base our marriage on 4 years later.

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After writing all this I am struggling to find my point...

I suppose my point is that it scares me and makes me feel so sad that there may come a time in the future where we stop compromising and we stop feeling so happy in our marriage. No one deserves to be in an unhappy relationship because everyone deserves a life filled with as much happiness in it as possibly but then again, people shouldn't have to change who they are or who they have grown into to please others... Even their husband or wife. I suppose that all I can do is hope and wish that we continue to talk to each other and share our thoughts and feelings and continue to compromise as I think if this stops then all the other cogs that keep our relationship ticking may stop too. We never know what the future will hold so I will immerse myself in the here and now and worry about the future in the future.

"The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue.  It's a choice you make- not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife"
Barbara De Angelis


Real World Parenting Awards

I remember the moment I left hospital with Bubba so well. Walking  (or should I say waddling!) through those doors with my amazing husband carrying a car seat with our little tiny bundle of new born joy all snuggled up inside. I had visions of how our life would be when we got home. Family snuggles on the sofa, Bubba snoozing in his moses basket whilst I showered and did my hair and made myself feel human again, all of our family and friends coming over and cooing over our precious little boy whilst me and hubby looked on beaming with pride. But in the real world that is not what happened. In the real world, I had 2 weeks of hubby being home and us both trying to muddle learning how to look after our screaming, unsettled baby whilst surviving on about 3 hours sleep. In the real world, parenting is hard and those first few days and weeks can be the hardest. In fact, as many as 20% of new Mums in the UK suffer from psychological issues in the first year of parent hood which is why the care of supportive health visitors, nurses, midwives and family is so so important because in the real world we all need some help sometimes.

That is why Infacol are supporting the Real World Parenting awards! This is your chance to get someone who gave you the best support the recognition they deserve. There are two separate catogories: one for health professional, which has been developed by the Primary Care Society for Gastroenterology, and one for friends and family. The health professional category will recognise the dedication, compassion and hard work of the health professional who are there for us through all of the tough time such a breastfeeding, colic or developmental worries. PCSG Chair, Dr. Richard Stevens explains:
“Becoming a parent for the first time isn’t easy, and the first six months can be especially tough. That’s why families need support, and the encouragement they receive from their GP or health visitor
can make all the difference. As professionals, we sometimes forget we can provide a lot by just being there and being constant.”

The second category for family and friends will highlight the importance of listening and providing love and encouragement.
“Having a baby is a life changing experience and an incredible one, but it can be stressful,” says Dr. Hilary Jones, who will be part of the judging panel. “If you’re lucky enough to have a wonderful family around you, or great friends, it can make a huge difference.”

If you want to nominate someone in your life who helped you then all you need to do is email their name, workplace (if nominating a healthcare professional) and why you want to nominate them to: by the end of July. There will then be a presentation for the winner in September.

So what are you waiting for??? Get nominating now!!

Things are about to get a little cray cray!! | Blog

I feel like I have been so busy on here recently with vlogs and exciting events and things that I haven't had a chance to stop and just have a catch up with you lovely people. So I figured that tonight I was going to take the time to fill you in on all of craziness that will be going on in the next few weeks.

The biggest thing that we have going on at the moment is a huge bathroom renovation. Hubby is going to be ripping out the entire bathroom and turning it into a beautiful new room that we can use to relax in. At the moment our bathroom is an awful bright blue colour which is painted on in a egg shell paint meaning that the water clings to the walls! This means that it is a proper bugger to clean and is mouldy and damp and just horrible! The bathroom suite is also really old and broken. If I am being honest, the bathroom as it is now is not a relaxing place and I am so excited that we will soon have a bathroom that is perfect for us and done in the way that we want it. the worlds of my irritating husband ''You can't make an omelette with out breaking eggs'' which translates as 'there will be a whole load of mess and dust and you will hate it'. He's not wrong! I know that there will be mess but that doesn't mean I am going to like it. In fact, I am dreading it!!! I am hoping and praying that if we work really hard for about 10 days then it will all be done and dusted....we will see!!

So after all this bathroom madness is done it will then be August?!!? Can you believe that we are nearly in August??? Our August is already filled with lot's of days out with friends, BBQs with family and lots of birthday celebrations. I am looking forward to it as I love this time of year but it is making me a little anxious as it means that I will have less time for blogging and editing etc. I'm sure I will find a balance and it will be fine (she says!!!).

After August we are then in September and that means 2 things for us. Bubba's second birthday (sobsob!!!) and our first ever family holiday to Disneyland Paris!!! Disneyland Paris is a really special place to me as it was where hubby and I met on a school trip and where he asked me to marry him 5 years later. I am so excited about going back and really hope Bubba is going to enjoy it as much as I am imagining him to. I'm not so excited about his second birthday though. How can my little baby be turning 2??? I am so overwhelmingly proud of him and the little boy that he is becoming but I just wish he could stop growing so quickly! We are planning a lovely family BBQ for his birthday and I am already on the hunt for a theme that he will love.

So that is what is going on in my world at the moment. Lot's of exciting things but also lot's of busyiness (is that even a word?!) which means that I am really going to have to learn to juggle my time and make sure I get everything done.

I think it's time I brought myself a diary :)