26.4.15

Remembering the man behind Daddy

My husband is a wonderful father. There is no doubt about it, his little boy is his world and when it comes to it, Bubba has Hubby wrapped around his little finger! Seeing him with our son makes my heart swell and feel like it could burst. I could honestly have not wished for a better man to have created a new little life with.
Weekends are so precious to hubby as he works so hard all week, coming in normally about half an hour before bedtime so only really seeing Bubba for a little bit of time each day. This weekend we had quite a busy one seeing family and friends and it was only when I was looking back over some photos of the weekend that I realised how much I love that man behind the Daddy.
To Bubba, I hope that that man will always be someone he looks up to and respects. Someone who is his friend and confident whilst still teaching Bubba right from wrong. I have no doubt that Bubba will grow up wanting to be just like his Daddy and worshiping the ground he walks on.

Today though, I thought about the man behind the Daddy. The man that I knew and fell in love with when we were 15. He is kind, caring, silly and funny. He is so hardworking and pushes himself professionally to make sure that he can provide the best possible life for me and Bubba. He works hard so that I only have to go back to work part time so I can spend the rest of my time raising our son the way that WE jointly agree. He also works so hard, when hes not actually at work, around the house to make it a beautiful, safe and comfy place for us to raise our family in. This man has been with through a difficult pregnancy, an interesting and emotionally draining induction and labour and was with me every step of the way when I brought our little boy into the world. He tolerates me when I'm being bitchy and moany at that time of month and he supports me in whatever I decide to do. When I started this blog I think he was a little unsure but listening to him speak about it to our friends today, I could hear the pride in his voice and that was something that made my heart flutter. He is now an avid supporter and reader of My Mummy Spam (when I remind him of the page address!!).

I think that sometimes I forget the man behind the Daddy. It doesn't mean I love him any less, just means that I love him differently. We try to go out on a date night just us 2 at least once a month and we haven't done this since Feb and I've really missed it. We have a couple of things coming up in May though were it will just be us two and I am so excited about going out as Ami & Hubby rather than Mummy & Daddy. Think this has also been a contributor to shadowing Hubby behind Daddy.

Point of this post is this...If you are a mummy then just stop every now again and look at your partner. Loom at them and try to see past that Daddy or Mummy and look for the person that you fell in love with. Look for them and remember all the things that make your heart flutter and just let them know. Just remind them that they are still Hubby/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend ect and let them know how you feel. If your reading this Hubby then thank you. Thank you for your support and for caring. Know that I appreciate everything you do for me and our little boy and know that I see you...I see you there behind that Daddy and I love what I see :)
xxxxx

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31 comments:

  1. Thanks for telling me about this post! :)

    I'll address the post first! You're so right! It's so easy to fall into the role of mummy and daddy that you forget to be yourselves or to even see each other in any other way! The fact that you two still have dates and can support each other in more than just parenting is fantastic.

    To Hubby. Good job buddy! Firstly for the fact that you work as hard as you can for your family and then spend every waking moment possible being a dad at the weekend! It's what I like to see and read! And you'll be surprised how many guys have a partial rest at the week because they work so hard. But by the sounds of it you're throwing yourself in which is great.
    Two things:
    1. You seriously need to imprint the blog page, in your mind, on paper and an open page on your phone. (Saves the wife from nagging ;))
    2. Carry on the great work that you're doing as hubby and dad.

    Ami loved the post and you're blog. (Had a bit of a nose around) will make sure I'm back more. If I'm not give me the occasional nudge to come and have a read. My memory is getting terrible at the moment!!

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    1. Thanks so much for the lovely comment :)
      Hubby has taken point 1 on board and thanks your for point 2.
      xxx

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    2. Just come back to have another read. Thanks for linking up with us on the #bigfatlinky hope to see you there next week
      Glad hubs taken on point 1 too ;)

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  2. It is so important to make sure you have time for the two of you as a man and a woman. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the family life and parenting. Such a heartwarming post too...I wish I could see your husband face when he will read this post. xx

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    1. Your so right! He liked the post but tends to keep his cards close to his chest so don't really know exactly how hes feeling :)

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  3. Great post and this is an important reminder - we need to remember why we fell in love more often. Thank you x #sharethejoy

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  4. Lovely post, and so important that we remember them. I love my hubby and he is the most amazing Daddy, I couldn't wish for a better man! I wish we went out just the 2 of us more often, but we can't as we have no support network to look after M. When we do get out together we appreciate it a lot! xx #mummymonday

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    1. Thats great that your man is so good :) At least you do appreciate it when you do go out. Its just lovely to not be mummy and daddy for a couple of hour and just be yourselves.
      xxx

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  5. Aww lovely post! So true that you need to out time aside to spend just the two of you. We haven't done this enough and it makes a huge difference! #mummymonday

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  6. Love this post - think we all need to take time out to remember the man behind daddy #mummymonday

    http://motherhoodtherealdeal.com/

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  7. A beautiful post and so important to take time for yourselves and remember who you are as a couple as well as being Mummy and Daddy. We try and have regular date nights and it makes such a difference. Your hubby sounds like a wonderful man. #sharethejoy

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    1. I think he is but then I am probably biased :)
      Thanks for popping in!
      x

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  8. Beautiful sentiment to your husband. You're right: sometimes we forget the man behind the father (and sometimes even the woman behind mom), but it's important to take the time to remember that once in a while. Thank you for sharing this post!

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    1. Thank you for coming over and commenting! :)
      xx

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  9. I'm sure that he will really appreciate this post :) I know that one of the hardest things for me is only getting home from work when it's time for her to go to bed, you feel like you need to make up lost time on the weekend. So on Saturdays I give my wife a break by going on a trip to the shop, or something similar, with our daughter; just the two of us. It might be a break for my wife, but also a treat for me :)

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    1. Your so right. Hubby loves taking Bubba to do stuff as he loves the little time they get to spend together
      x

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  10. Found on #TwinklyTuesday
    ...by the way :)

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  11. What a beautiful testament to your husband! It is so important to continue to be life partners and not only co-parents. After all, you'll still be together when Bubba embarks on his own independent life!

    Thanks for linkup up at #TwinklyTuesday.

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    1. Thanks so much for your beautiful comment :)
      x

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  12. This is such a wonderful post Ami and a great reminder that we need to spend time looking beyond the roles that we do as parents to the man (or woman) that we fell in love with before the little people came into our lives. Your hubbie sounds like the model husband and father! Well done to him and I support everything that Martyn says in his comment. Thanks so much for linking up this fab post at #sharethejoy this week - have pinned this post on my Pinterest favourites board for this linkg. (Also tried to follow you on twitter but can't find you there - feel free to follow me and I'll reciprocate!)

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  13. This is such a lovely post! Your husband sounds like he is both a wonderful dad and partner! It's so hard sometimes to find the time to be just a couple now that being a parent has taken over! Date nights are so good, but it can be hard to find the time or a babysitter! xx

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  14. This is a lovely post Ami its clear your husband means an awful lot to you and he sounds like a great daddy! Its so important to find time as a couple and remember why your together and love each other hope you enjoy the things you have planned! Thanks to linking up to #kidscorner x

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  15. This is so lovely, I definitely forget to look at my husband rather than 'daddy'. Thank you so much for sharing in #KidsCorner x

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  16. Fab post! It's so easy to forget who you both are underneath the Mummy/Daddy persona, especially when you've been a parent for over 12 years. So thank you for the reminder. x

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  17. What a beautiful post you have written for your husband! he's a lucky man! Thank you so much for sharing this and linking on #wineandboobs

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  18. Made me a little tearful because I often forget about what my hubby was like before our children come along. My hubby is an amazing father but we have not been on date for over 3 years (unless you count lunch when daughter is sleeping in stroller next us). I am really happy that you found a wonderful partner and father. Thank you for linking up at #FathersDay2015

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  19. I love hearing love stories that started when they were really young (like yours) and ended up raising a family! It's the kind that movies are made of ;) #FathersDay2015

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