23.4.15

What I learnt from pregnancy..

I didn't enjoy pregnancy. I was not one of those lucky women who bloomed and has a glow around them. Although I did have a glow, but that glow was sweat and I bloomed but that was from the swelling and HUGE bump I grew. For me, pregnancy was a means to an end and whilst it was certainly a worthwhile journey, it was not with out its hitches.

During the 38 weeks that I cooked my little bubba for something happened that I wasn't expecting. I learnt. I learnt that pregnancy was NOT what I was expecting and I also unexpectedly learnt a lot about myself.

1. My Body:
Before falling pregnant I was by no stretch of the imagination slim but I was happy. I felt confident enough to wear a bikini on holiday and would happily say that I felt attractive to my husband. When I fell pregnant I loved watching my belly grow. I loved my bump (even if it was huge) and was proud to show it off.

Although...saying this, I developed horrendous stretch marks. The worse part about this...I used Bio Oil religiously twice a day and it made no difference what so ever. When I was pregnant my stretch marks didn't bother me as I naively thought they would go away once bubba was here but I can safety say that even at almost 8 months postpartum...the stretch marks are still here. The stretch marks accompanied with the awful mummy apron that I still have are, for me, is the only remaining downside of pregnancy. To be fair I haven't tried hard to loose the apron but the appearance of my belly now as really effected my self confidence. I would never dream of wearing a bikini now purely because of my mummy tummy. I feel self conscious in front of my husband because of it even though he tells me that I am beautiful no matter what and that he finds me attractive. I am hoping this is something that will get better with time (and a whole load of exercise and getting back into shape) but for now, its just a negative side effect of the process that got me the best thing in the world. My bubba.

2. My attitude:
During pregnancy, I became quite an angry person. Not like violent angry but just quite quick tempered and easy to aggravate. Prior to January 2014 when I fell pregnant I was a very placid, non confrontational person. Now, I am the first to pipe up if someone without kids has parked in a child space or if someone cuts me up on the roads. My husband was always the hot headed one of the two of us and I was the peace keeper. He jokes that when I fell pregnant a bit of his hotheadedness went into bubba and when I gave birth, a little bit got left behind. I just think that sleep deprivation and being a busy mum just makes me less tolerant of idiots!

3. My Pain Threshold:
I'm not going to go into the ins and outs of my birth story here (although thinking of doing a post for that sometime, what do you think?) but I am so impressed by my pain threshold. I still remember how proud of myself I felt when even my mum commented on how shocked she was that I wasn't a huge diva during labor, which to be fair, even I thought I would be :) 

4. Boobs:
Boobs...if you have had a baby then you know what I am talking about, if you haven't then ignorance is bliss! :) I have always been quite large chested and I tell you what, people weren't lying when they said it was all DOWN hill after having a baby ;)

5. To cherish the pre baby times:
Looking back on my pregnancy I wish that my husband and I would have gone on more dates. For the last three months of my pregnancy I suffered with really bad SPD so it was difficult for me to get out and about very much as walking for more than about 2 mins left me feeling like a horse had kicked me in my lady garden but I wish we could have gone on more dates. Nothing major but just a few more cinema trips or meals out as even through we do a date night that is baby free once a month, I miss us just being Ami and Hubby, not Mummy and Daddy. Even now when we go on a date night, all we really do is talk about bubba and the newest thing he has learnt to do but I suppose that's life now. Even when I'm not with Bubba I'm still thinking about him. :)

Did you learn a lot in your pregnancy? Do you wish you did anything different?
Let me know!

xxx





3 comments:

  1. Loving your blog so far Ami! Very honest! Keep it up girl! Xx

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  2. I'm enjoying watching my bump grow but did comment to Jon tonight as I was looking at all the summer clothes that I miss my waist line. I know my body will never be the same again after and I know I'll regret all the years that I hated my perfect body! It'll be worth every second though with my child. As for your request about people wanting the birth blog I'm gonna suggest September for that post! Lol! I'll be happy to read it once this little one is born. As for me I am currently enjoying pregnancy but I am only half way through! I'll update you again in a few months!!!

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