'Oh I have thought of such a great thing for you to write about on your blog as the other day I found my pregnancy and baby book that I was reading when I was pregnant and it made me so bloody angry!! I had a look at what *Bubba* should be doing at the age she is now and well, by the sounds of the book, she is going to end up on drugs, too fat and totally undeveloped!! Its so ridiculous!!'.
She really me laugh as her Bubba and mine are pretty much the same age and they are both such happy, health, clever babies that are developing so well in their own different ways and for a stupid book to suggest any different was just plain stupid!! It did get me thinking though....
|Bubba at almost 8 months.|
Even now, when I look in the book and see what my Bubba (at almost 8 months) should be doing it says:
- 'May be crawling at this age'
- 'if not crawling then should be 'bum shuffling' or slithering around on his tummy.
- 'May clap his hands when his happy or wave good bye'
- 'points to objects that he wants and coo's towards them'
- 'have a minimum of 20 Oz of milk per day'
- 'should be averaging 11 hours sleep of a night and 3 hours in the day split between 2 naps'
When in reality he is:
- No where near crawling!! His little budda belly is too big for his arms to hold up at the moment (bless him!!)
- Once again, the belly gets in the way for slithering and he does a little bum shuffling but really he just moves his legs around a wobbles like a weeble!
- He chews his hands. That whats his hands are for at the moment...chewing. Oh and grabbing hair, noses, phones and generally anything that he shouldn't grab. No clapping or waving (even though I do force him to wave whenever we say goodbye in the hope that it will click).
- The only pointing Oliver does it when he is poking you in the eye or nose and as for cooing...I WISH! we get high pitch screams or raspberries 99% of the time.
- This milk one is a huge cause of worry for me! Some days Bubba has 25-30 oz plus his 3 meals and then others we have to fight to get him to take 10! Its so difficult but I have just resigned myself to the fact that hes not going to go hungry and he is just having an ''off milk day''.
- Sleeping for Bubba is pretty good but its the same as the milk. Some days he has more (we are currently in the middle of an epic 2 hour nap!), some days less. All of our other Bubba's that we know have such different sleeping patterns that I don't see how anyone can come up with an average of what a baby needs.
When I compare what the books says to reality, its shocking and if I wasn't surrounded by people who tell me to just throw the book out of the window I would be totally paranoid about it all!
What I am trying to say is that I think we really need to think if these books are a help or a hindrance. All babies and Mummy's are different and we all do things at different times. Yes, read them if they make you feel more knowledgeable and prepared but remember what my friend told me...
'You can read all of the pregnancy and babies books in the world and then throw them out of the window because your baby hasn't read them'.
What are your thoughts?
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