12.8.15

The dark side of blogging.

When I started blogging back in April, I started because I wanted to write all about my little boy, share all of my experiences and memories and I wanted to blog for me. As time went on I became aware of how important things like numbers, followers, scores and DA were but I didn't really let it phase me as I was just blogging for me.
Now, almost 5 months down the line this blog has been more successful than I ever imagined but that success has come with some major downsides as I have now become one of those people that I didn't want to be.. I am bothered about numbers, I find myself thinking about DA and how to improve it and start questioning the quality of my blog and writing when I don't have any emails from anyone for a few days. It's stupid and I didn't like what this blog and I were becoming. I decided I will not become one of those bloggers who just post about and review everything and anything just so that they can keep 'in' with PR companies and brands that aren't even remotely linked to their blog genre. I also don't want to become the type of blogger who lacks the personal side and doesn't respond to tweets or Facebook comments as the community is part of the reason I love blogging. I have been on the flip side of this and tweeted or left comments for someone and when they don't get back to you it does make you feel a little crap and stupid for every tweeting/commenting.
The other thing that I have seen recently is how fickle and transparent the blogging world really is. Don't get me wrong, I have found some amazing people through the blogging community that make me roar with laughter and are a fantastic bunch of crazies but there have been some that could not be more different. Maybe it's just me but I have noticed more and more recently the number of 'large' bloggers (not in size (lol) but in following) that I have seen become less personal and caring and more about promoting and making money. If that's what they want to do and they want their blog to become a business then good on them and I wish them ever success but what I don't like is when they come across all ''Oh I am a real person, I'm down to earth, just someone who blogs about life/beauty/parenting etc because I want to share'' when really then couldn't give a crap about their readers and followers. All they care about are numbers, brands, PR's and where their next review product is coming from.
This may sound harsh and I think this may touch a nerve with some. I just wish people would stop being fake and just be who they are on their blogs. I know that this is the nature of the internet and that people can be whoever they want to be blah blah blah but I do not want to become a number watcher. I want to get back to basics with my blog and write about things I love. I am not saying I won't do reviews/sponsored posts BUT I will only do them with products and services that I truly believe in as I would never want to lead on anyone that reads my blog. I also think that if I would to write a review about, for example, self storage when I normally write about parenting and family, that anyone that reads it would be a bit like...ermm wtf?? :)
 I am also making a commitment right here and now to NEVER stop responding to the lovely people who read my blog. I have recently been really bad at this but no more! I write for me but I love nothing more when someone says that can relate to the post or that it has helped them and if they take the time to tell me it's only right that I take the time to thank them.
So thats it...no more will I be falling into the dark side of blogging and I won't be bogged down with scores and numbers. I will blog for me and if people, other bloggers, PR's, brands and anyone else doesn't like it then let me know...I can point you in the direction of some blogs that I am sure you will love ;)

xxxx

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18 comments:

  1. Very good read and couldn't have come at a better time. I've had all this in my head all day and it wad due to me having a pout over the tots 100 ranking. I then realised why the hell do I care about that. As you say I started my blog to document and share my life not worry about what blinking number I am ranked. I know people read it and that's what makes me happy. Xx

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    1. Hear Hear!!! why do we waste time on numbers and scores? I think my Tots ranking is way over 1500 but I just don't think about it anymore as its just a number. :)

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  2. Love this post! I must admit that I've been rather focused on numbers recently and I hate it! I'm hoping my blog is keeping it real to me!

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    1. If you think you are then you must be :) only you know what you want to write about :)

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  3. Totally agree it's good to have a recoup and realise why you started blogging and to keep it to what you enjoy writing about. But on the other side just to be controversial if people are focusing on their blogs as a source of financial stability and income then numbers and stats ultimately are important!! Tough one! :)

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  4. Totally agree and I understand from a business point of view why DA and stats are important but what does me is when you see a beauty blog reviewing tyres or a parenting blog reviewing sexy underware (all examples!!). And I really dislike the lack of personal touch from some x

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    1. Oh yeh I hate it when people can't even take the time to acknowledge you when they are "huge" bloggers. And when people take anything they can grab that's completely irrelevant!! Guess it's just the way it goes x

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  5. Oh I agree Ami - there's so many bloggers who don't respond as if they're so much better than you because they're blog is so much more successful! I think that stats can be important depending on why you're blogging, but good stats doesn't stop you from being polite! xx

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    1. Your so right :) thanks for reading :) xx

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  6. Hear hear! I love this post and agree with all points, especially the one about people not bothering to comment back and "large" bloggers (I used to look up to) being quite impersonal. I suppose however if you want to be a pro blogger (and do it on your own), you simply don't have the time to get personal with anyone who isn't in your clique?!

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    1. Oh yeah, I totally agree that it must be difficult the bigger you get but I see some that hardly respond to ANYONE and that just baffles me. I used to look up to them too but now I really admire the bloggers who keep in touch with their readers and followers :) x

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  7. I'm very relaxed about how I blog now

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  8. I have to say, I don't see this side of what we do at all. I don't think that other bloggers don't respond because their blog is much more successful, just that with success comes so many fans, so many tweets, so many comments, it all gets overwhelming sometimes. And they still have a livelihood to earn, a family to see, a childhood (their sprog's, not theirs obvs) to experience. It gets complicated. Keep reaching out. I don't think that people mean to ignore you, I'm sure that things will start to even out.

    I do agree entirely with your comments about working with random PRs on campaigns that don't fit remotely with the blog topic though - it CAN be done well but I don't think I'd manage and I certainly wouldn't enjoy trying, so I don't do it. It's lead to some really worthwhile opportunities from other PRs though, I think because my blog doesn't feature many reviews.

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    1. Thanks for your comment :) your right that it can be done very well but majority of times not so much!
      It's not me that's being ignored as the majority of bloggers I speak with now are great at coming back. When I first started though and was asking for guidance it was really disheartening to be ignored by some. X

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  9. I'm relatively new to blogging as in the last couple months and I worry sometimes that my follower count is zero and if I don't get many views on a new post but I have to remind myself that I started the blog for me as a way for me to clear my head as being a 1st time mum and a house wife. Something that was just for me and this post is fantastic it really spoke to me and is a great reminder as to why I wanted/want to blog. So Thank you :-)

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  10. You've got it spot on!! It's about you and what you want to write :) tweet me your blog please (@mymummyspam) as I would love to have a read :) x

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  11. I love this post, it completely sums up my thoughts on blogging - i always respond to comments and tweets, it seems so rude not to, plus i actually like interacting with readers :) #bigfatlinky
    Debbie
    www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

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