6.1.16

Let babies be babies!

This may be controversial..maybe not but it's something that has been playing on my mind for a while and this is my little space in the internet so I'm going to write about it! :)
Why do people feel the need to push their babies to grow up? Here is a small example of the type of things I mean:

Putting a baby that can't walk or stand up (or even sit up for that matter) in shoes??

Getting rid of "baby things" likes travel systems and prams and/or cot bars as the little one is "turning into a big boy/girl"? 

Posting photos of the little one cooking or colouring or doing crafts when clearly all they are actually doing is trying to eat the food/colouring/crafts? 

I just don't get it. Yes I know that children move and develope at different rates but why not just let babies be babies? They are only our babies for such a short time as before we know it they will really be grown up and independent. Why push them to do this sooner? 

Me and hubby recently discussed taking the bars off of bubbas bed. This wasn't because he was climbing out of it or anything like that. It was purely because I had seen so many people with babies of bubbas age taking the cot bars off. I thought that it was just norm for them to come off when Bubs was this age as it was what everyone else around me was doing. I really didn't want to do it though. He is too young to understand (in my opinion) he can't just walk over and play with his toys whenever he wants just because he can get out of bed. And he won't understand that can't come walking into mummy and daddy's room at 4 am just because he can as there are no bars. He can't understand that yet and he is such a good sleeper that I didn't see why I should fix something that wasn't broken. Yes it may be seen to some as "babyish" that he is still in a full cot but so what?!? He's 16 months old and he is a baby. 

So I've decided to ignore what other are doing around me. You won't find me posting pictures of Bubs decorating biscuits with me as he can't do that yet..trust me... I've tried and he would rather take the biscuit and run! I won't be giving up my pram anytime soon for something lighter for me but less comfy for him as he's "a big boy" who doesn't need a pram. Our pram cost my parent enough so u will be making the most of it! And I will most certainly not be removing bubbas cot bars anytime soon as I like that all of us get a full nights sleep. Lack of sleep does not bode well with my little family! Am I babying bubba? Maybe, be he is still my baby in my eyes so I will baby him whilst I can :)

10 comments:

  1. I agree. He rolls around so much he could fall out then how guilty would you feel with a trip to A&E. Let them be little and enjoy it. It goes so quick and you can never get that time back. Amis mummy.

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  2. I'm probably too far in the other direction. My son didn't get shoes until he was nearly two as he wasn't walking (although that might have been because I'm so cheap)

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    1. Love it! Think I'm going to keep Bubs in his cot as long as we can. He isn't climbing yet but think that's because he is still in a sleeping bag which he loves!

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  3. I do agree with you on some bits here! I would have kept Indiana in her cot with the bats on forever if I could haha, we only took them off as we needed the cot for when my second was born (we wanted to make the change gradual as a new baby was a big enough change). I totally agree about the pram though. I see so many people spend hundreds of pounds on a travel system only to swap to a small pushchair after a few months - we still use our 'big' pushchair and my toddler is over 2! Xx

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    1. I love our "big" pushchair and can't imagine getting rid of it! :) x

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    2. Me either (it cost enough in using it for life ;)) haha xxxxxxxxxx

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  4. This is an interesting post Ami and it sparks up things in my mind. Some babies Dana's age have started rolling over. She can't do this yet, she can get onto her side but she can't fully roll. I'm worried so give her extra floor time as I attempt to get her to roll. It's ridiculous. I want her to stay my baby for as long as possible and yet I'm pushing her to progress. I panic that if she's not making these milestones by a set point it's because I've been a bad mother. Ugh! Just can't win. Lol! Maybe I should just do what you are doing and let Dids be a baby whilst she is one. Xxx

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    1. I know exactly how you feel! Bubs didn't smile until he was about 10 weeks old and most babies do it at 6-8 weeks. I was panicking there was something wrong with him. The same as rolling.. He rolled later than all of his friends but then again he walked before them. They will do things at there own speed and I really wouldn't worry about Dana. She is so alert and will just do things when she is ready. And you are NOT a bad mother!! Just because Dana didn't do something when a book or the net says does not make you a bad mother! It's always the way that you want them to develope and grow but then again you want them as your baby forever. What I would give to go back to this time next year and get those little baby snuggles again and to be able to put him down somewhere and know where he will be when I come back. Now I get a quick snuggle when he passing and put him down today to find him throwing blocks down the loo literally 2 mins later!!! :) xxxxxxx

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  5. Haha, I never understood the baby shoes thing either. They just pull them off!

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